Admittedly, the first couple weeks with baby Ben were pretty tough. Simply put - sleep deprivation is cruel. The side effects include extreme exhaustion, blurry thoughts, inability to deal with ordinary challenges, impatience, etc. Roll in stress, uncertainty and a crying baby - it's a recipe for high levels of tension.
However, on the other side, I've noticed a really awesome change in our marriage.
Before baby (bb) the unspoken key to our success was our individual independence. While married, we both thrived on our ability to do our own thing (work late, hit the gym, go out with friends, travel, etc.) without much worry of upsetting the other.
Now, we are much more of a team. There is too much for one person to do and responsibilities seem to constantly shift between us. The nice thing is, it has happened seamlessly and we've slipped into an existence that seems natural and familiar.
Accomplishments are shared, regardless of who's watch they occurred under. Responsibilities shifted, given overall load.
Maybe this is obviously, but I noticed tonight that we're so much more powerful working together as two than individually. It was never necessary before but as a team, we've navigated a challenging (newborn) part and look forward to celebrating the victories moving forward!
Where one may have been on for night dog walks, the other is picking up the slack. Or laundry loaded by Responsibilities are divided. Accomplishments shared - regardless of who actually was there. Baby smiled; dog behaved; bills paid - high fives for the team.
It has been seamless and we've slipped into new behaviors that seem natural though we likely wouldn't have been successful had we tried We've seamless slipped into a collaboration that feels comfortable, though it's the first time we've worked together to keep the household together. Dog. Baby.
As I mentioned, it has all been We love spending time togetherAnd I've often lived by the philosophy "ept our lives and has pretty powerful side effects including blurry confusion, the side effects can't be under estimated. However on the other side, I've noticed some really awesome developments for us.
I've always loved being married, for a thousand reasons that I won't ramble on about. One thing about us that was particularly appealing to me, however, was our ability to remain pretty independent while married. We both basically lived ou
However we've experienced an unspoken evolution where we've become much more of a team, working towards a common goal - generally speaking, keeping this little guy alive and well.
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